Why it is so very hard to locate a guy that is decent date?

I’m 36 yr old, feminine. Well educated/travelled/dressed. Fit and attractive. Work with technology == geek2geek financially stable. Own my destination.

It is not just me personally, all my solitary girlfriends have actually the exact same challenge/complaints. Individuals state the Silicon Valley is filled with dudes, not so much if you ask me. 1/5 are super nerdy and don’t understand emotions that are human. 1/5 don’t want young ones. 1/5 we don’t find attractive, 1/5 make significantly less than 50% of the thing I make and I’m not so more comfortable with that (we threw in the towel the a cure for equal-income partner number of years ago. Offered We have average tech salary, 50% means he has to hold a good task). The remainder 1/5 feel they have been too beneficial to me.

(Well these parts overlap so that the mathematics does not in fact work, but you’ve got the theory)

Any a few ideas the thing I can perform? I’d appreciate guys’ viewpoint. Many Thanks!

Some back ground, I’m an immigrant, this means it took me personally great deal of the time and work to land within the Silicon Valley. In addition it took me personally after some duration to learn the norms that are dating. Nevertheless learning everyday =)

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BIO 15+ yoe, Java, etc FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

You’re too old to have a good man for the longterm relationship. You will either attract losers that are thirsty divorced dads in their 50s.

Dudes your actual age that are desirable are settling straight straight down with very early 20 somethings (the minority which have their shit together) instead of wasting their time courting somebody who is both infertile and has a high viewpoint of on their own.

I might never date a lady inside her thirties unless i did not down want to settle and also children. And I also say this as a man who did a term that is long with a female inside her thirties before ultimately realizing the mistake of my methods.

Females date and marry up (when it comes to status). Guys marry youth and childbearing potential. a appealing girl with bundle that is making childbearing age will probably have an extremely hard time matching with many guys-either they truly are too low status or they could fare better, with a massive space at the center when it comes to guys which can be both too low status and will fare better.

BIO Troll residing beneath the I-5 overpass FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

You are able to thank the #MeToo and super feminists for many of the.

ten years ago, guys is conversing with you within the roads, or perhaps in a bar.Lately many people are afraid to obtain labelled with #MeToo therefore we stay static in the web scene that is dating things are totally trivial and numb.

It appears increasingly more hard to fulfill lineage individuals in true to life. Something else the feminists fucked up for all of us

“No, it’s YOU whom made a decision to willfully ignore the things I stated & intended yours. because it didn’t fit”

Are you currently attempting drag most of us into a school argument that is elementary?

BIO Troll residing beneath the I-5 overpass FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

“No, it really is YOU whom made a decision to willfully ignore the thing I said & intended since it didn’t fit yours.”

Oh god. That is glorious.????

This really is likely to appear to be another angry-nerd-male-rejected post but you want to reduce your standards and concentrate less on TC and simply become more flexible general.

Posting this is certainly merely what you are likely to suffer from. Up to many years ago I made not as much as 60k and was more versatile on dating and also you could have auto-rejected me personally. Now I can afford to be more picky and I’d prefer dating women under 30 that I make a lot more than that and own multiple houses with a net worth of several mil. I do not have trouble with ladies over 30 but my requirements are greater, purchasing a location is not sufficient, she’s got to numerous places or has a small business from the part or other quality that produces up on her age. I’m able to now manage to simply head to another the main nation or any other nation to date in place of cope with females with psychological baggage from dating in technology bro land (sorry, simply unfortunate truth).

My point is you must understand your market value in accordance with what you are actually in search of. Then you need to understand what makes you stand out from other women if you’re looking for that “everything” guy (so is every women in tech bro land. Unfortuitously for females, market value decreases dramatically while you approach 40 as you progress through your 30s with a significant decline. It really is less therefore with males because well. A lot of ladies try to find high TC/net worth (if they acknowledge it or perhaps not) as well as for many men TC increases as we grow older and an escalating TC accocunts for for age and their market value does not drop just as much due to age.